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Wednesday, 17 October 2018 12:59

How can I get over my extreme fear of talking to new people?

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Sounds like you are caught up in what’s called a ‘self-fulfilling prophesy.”

You expect to be afraid of talking to new people, therefore you will act in that way.

First jobs are often identified as opportunities to develop one’s social skills, reduce one’s shyness and build confidence. As you journey through life, every job you take on from the very first one will add to your skills and experience.

Don’t let your current fear prevent you from taking on that first job. FEAR is often defined as False Expectations Appearing Real. They aren’t real! We make them that way.

The only way to conquer a fear is to hit it head on and not let it control you.

I’ve been fearful of many things throughout my life. I was terrified of public speaking. I got tired of being afraid and decided to do something about it. Now I speak regularly and teach others how to public speak.

Your first job, which sounds like it will be an entry level, customer service one, will present you with challenges to overcome. Just because you are currently afraid, doesn’t mean that you will continue to be. You may open a whole set of opportunities that could lead to a career path.

You never know what will happen when you conquer a fear. A common response to conquering a fear is in wondering why it was so over-powering in the first place.

Go for it!

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